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A Letter To My Daughter On International Girl Child Day

// This letter has been published by Women’s Web on the occasion of International Girl Child Day and is available at the below link:

http://www.womensweb.in/2017/10/the-perfect-woman-a-letter-to-my-daughter-on-international-girl-child-day/

Dear Daughter,

Today is International Girl Child Day and this day always evokes myriads of emotions within me. As you grow, you will comprehend the significance of this day in the world that we dwell in but this letter is not just about this one day. This note is, in fact, going to be an aide memoire for me and if I ever try to enforce my beliefs and opinions on you, this will hopefully serve as a reminder for me to back off and let you be.

I endeavour everyday to raise you as a sensitive and strong girl, but achieving this in a patriarchal society is no child’s play. While on one side I will always strive to encourage you to be yourself and stand up for your values, there will be a counterbalancing effect from a section of the society which will threaten to bog you down and crush your fiery spirit. At times, you might struggle to decide what you want to do; you might find it overbearing to fight loved ones and in a bid to want to fit in and be accepted, you may end up losing a bit of yourself.

Do good because…Just do good !

//This article was chosen among the top 10 parenting articles published at mycity4kids for the month of February 2016//

//This article has been published by Women’s Web and is available at below link:

http://www.womensweb.in/2016/12/kindness-is-a-habit/

I was home for a few weeks to get pampered by my mother during my pregnancy and it goes without saying that I was loving every bit of it. On one such relaxed, lazy morning during my stay, I was switching TV channels aimlessly in the living room when someone rang the door bell. Few ladies who seemed like laborers were at the door and I heard them asking Mom for tea. Knowing her, I expected that she will oblige so it was not a surprise for me when she went inside to prepare tea. However, what caught my attention was the quantity of tea she finally brought – it seemed for around 10 people! When I asked her about it later, I got to know that the laborers who worked in the vicinity of our house would regularly come to her for tea and water when they would get tired. She prepared tea for all of them every time even on busy and frantic days. I was amazed and asked Mom why do not they ask for help elsewhere in the neighborhood at times to which the answer was the obvious – No one else helped ! But then it quickly dawned on me that this is how Mom has always been. Whatever I have learnt about humanity and kindness in my life has been by watching my parents. To think of it, it may not seem like a big deal to make tea for few people every few days. But, how many of us would actually do this, especially knowing that those people are not even our staff so we aren’t going to get any benefit out of it? I am sure we know the answer! In fact, it would be inevitable to find people saying “What is the need to do so much always?” or “It is madness. It spoils them and then they keep troubling you for everything.” Well, madness or not – it is a perspective, but this act of kindness is just an example of the zillion little things that I have seen my parents do.