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Carrying Your Child Will Not Spoil Your Child

Are you a mother to a tiny tot? How many times have you heard the statement – “Oh! Don’t carry your child all the time. Kids get accustomed to it and then always want you to carry them. Don’t spoil your child.”? I am sure each one you must have been the recipient of this unsolicited advice at least once. I have been too. It is a ubiquitous notion that carrying a baby habitually is going to spoil the little one.

Firstly, I am not sure if I understand what people mean when they say “spoiling”. Do they mean that the parents would end up carrying around their grown up children in their laps because they did so a lot during their infancy and toddlerhood stage? Or do they mean that the children would be too dependent on their parents for life? If it is the former, then it is such a preposterous thought. Have you all ever seen a grown up wanting to be carried around? What are we really trying to caution the parents about here? If it is the latter, then pray tell me, how does one make a child independent without making them feel secure? In fact, it is the other way round – providing your baby the comfort and security which they need for their emotional growth is only going to make them independent faster than when you try to keep pushing them to become self-sufficient while they are not even ready. They will certainly come into their own sooner or later depending on their environment and personality.

A Letter To My Daughter On International Girl Child Day

// This letter has been published by Women’s Web on the occasion of International Girl Child Day and is available at the below link:

http://www.womensweb.in/2017/10/the-perfect-woman-a-letter-to-my-daughter-on-international-girl-child-day/

Dear Daughter,

Today is International Girl Child Day and this day always evokes myriads of emotions within me. As you grow, you will comprehend the significance of this day in the world that we dwell in but this letter is not just about this one day. This note is, in fact, going to be an aide memoire for me and if I ever try to enforce my beliefs and opinions on you, this will hopefully serve as a reminder for me to back off and let you be.

I endeavour everyday to raise you as a sensitive and strong girl, but achieving this in a patriarchal society is no child’s play. While on one side I will always strive to encourage you to be yourself and stand up for your values, there will be a counterbalancing effect from a section of the society which will threaten to bog you down and crush your fiery spirit. At times, you might struggle to decide what you want to do; you might find it overbearing to fight loved ones and in a bid to want to fit in and be accepted, you may end up losing a bit of yourself.

Book Review: Birds of Prey

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// This review has been published in the “Book Reviews” section on Women’s Web. Below is the link:

http://www.womensweb.in/2017/04/birds-of-prey-book-review/

I am an ardent follower of author Archana Sarat’s Saturday Shots. So, when I got to know about the launch of her debut novel, I was keen to read it. The day I received the novel, I was already in the midst of reading another one of a different genre. Hence, I decided to park “Birds of Prey” aside till I completed the current one. But, the book cover and the words of appreciation from Jitesh Pillai, the editor of Filmfare, made me curious and the plot, as I figured from the synopsis, compelled me to read the prologue. The pacy and intriguing prologue kept me hooked and the twist at the end of it caught me unaware. From then on, the book was unputdownable for me and I just could not stop myself from turning the pages to find out how the story unfolds. Thankfully, the universe conspired to help me read the book at one go by making my toddler fall asleep right when I began to do so.

“Birds of Prey”, a publication of Readomania, is based on the rampant issue of child sexual abuse which makes it very socially significant. The grim and heart-breaking truth is that it is probably happening somewhere as I write this review. It’s an uneasy coincidence that the day I got my hands on the book was the same day when the recent incident of child sexual abuse at a famous preschool in Bangalore had shaken us all up. Having worked as a volunteer with a NGO that rescues and rehabilitates human trafficking victims, I have some experience in counseling the victims of child sexual abuse and hence, have had a glimpse into the minds of the little ones impacted by it. This makes me a bit wary about reading a book on a related subject because I wonder if the issue has been sensationalized or handled with maturity and depth. However, the good news is that this fast-paced, brave and, at times, stomach churning novel has largely been successful in not only sensitively handling the topic, but also in delving into the mind of the victim.

Can we please stop advising couples to have a baby to solve their marital woes?

//This article has been published on popular platforms like Women’s Web and Youth Ki Awaaz and is also available on the below links:

http://www.womensweb.in/2017/03/having-a-baby-no-solution-for-marital-problems/

https://www.youthkiawaaz.com/2017/03/can-we-please-stop-advising-couples-to-have-a-kid-to-solve-their-marital-woes/

 

“Mom, are you free now? As I had told you, I need to discuss something very important with you.” 

The nervousness and sense of urgency in Kavita’s voice was evident now. Aradhana Aunty was at the bank when Kavita had called her earlier in the day.

“Yes beta, go on. Am back home now. All OK?”, Aunty asked worried.

“Mom, nothing is OK. I don’t know where to start.”, Kavita paused and then continued.

“My marriage isn’t working out. Vishal and I just don’t get along. I don’t think we are meant to be. “

There was a stoic silence. Kavita started fumbling for words but took a deep breath and gathered her thoughts.

Falling DOWN is a part of growing UP

// This article has been sponsored by Dettol and has been first published at mycity4kids. It is available at below link:

http://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/my-voice/article/falling-down-is-a-part-of-growing-up

“Terrible Twos”- the famous dreaded phase of parenthood! This is when children begin to look at themselves as individuals and become assertive. This is when they want to exercise their independence and start learning to express themselves, at times resulting in huge meltdowns. This is when they can be really cute one moment and can drive us up the wall the very next second. While it is surely a challenging stage of parenting, I believe it is also loads of fun as am currently experiencing with my child.